Gender roles

This topic really has me thinking and assessing my life now.  I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months now and it has started to get pretty serious I think but I have suddenly started worrying.  I am fortunate enough to have come from a family that has realtively few typical gender roles, although i think it is impossible to have a family with absolutely NO gender defined roles.  Both my mother and my father share the household chores and in fact my father does the major share of the cooking usually.  They have let me make my own decisions regarding my life, I played and participated in martial arts up through high school.  All in all it was a pretty good upbringing I think.  But I recently found out that my guy came from what I consider the complete opposite of my upbringing.  He even told me that his father as a young man cooked for his whole family up until the time he got married THEN his wife was to do the cooking.  And this has me scared… I think that we learn what to look for in relationships by what we have seen, the foremost of those relationships we base ours off of would be our parents.  And we seem to be coming from two mindsets on that one.  I know that every relationship is unique, I just hope that he doesn’t expect me to do all the cooking and cleaning!

~ by terbear on September 16, 2007.